In 2015, after 12 years of a really rocky marriage I pursued my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy with the ultimate goal of “fixing” my marriage. It obviously didn’t work! I learned you can’t control other people no matter how hard you work.

In 2019 I left him and got divorced. It was quite a bit of drama; as tough as I thought the marriage was, the divorce was even tougher. I felt like an end to the pain was nowhere in sight. Sometimes the best option felt like moving to the other side of the country and getting a new phone number.

In 2020 I stepped back from all the drama and decided something needed to change. I was tired of feeling like a victim of my life and working hard to defend myself or being believed....Frankly this was creating the opposite result of what I wanted.